We-men will always be grateful for Wo-men

For we men, today, and every day is international women’s day – We love them for they bring to the table – the food and so much more than food! We are grateful to them for our life itself – for without them we wouldn’t exist would we? The hand that rocks the cradle and swirls the ladle, has an advantage over those who don’t though that that trend is reversing these days, as men try to keep ahead in the game of gender thrones.

But Today is International Women’s Day.  The theme? Gender equality today for a sustainable tomorrow.  They are the ones who sustained us for so long – even when men felt they were superior, they don’t feel so superior today though – and now again it’s their turn to create a sustainable tomorrow – for us!  Is that Equality? Or Equity?

International Women’s day is a time to celebrate women for their foresight, hindsight, and all round in-sight. Even those who are sight challenged congenitally or because of misfortune, must be celebrated, because they can take in the sights through their other senses in that much greater measure. You must experience it to understand it … and sustain through it. You will, because this year’s them is the creation of a sustainable tomorrow! They will help you sustain.

Women lift your spirits – they disagree, sometimes violently when you imbibe them, and deny them, but are there by your side to infuse you with them  when you are down and out – they know when you are down and they know how to lift you up – with a smile, a hug, a kind word and just being there for you, catering to your every need – until they notice you are beginning to take advantage of them! Then you will be definitely at a disadvantage!

Women are selfless if they are in love with someone else other themselves which more often than not, they are. They are prone to do things for those they love, even for society at large, without expecting anything in return – for instance – a very light modern instance, but you’ll get the message – they would go out and buy you your favourite T shirt on your birthday, and won’t mind if you do the same – buy another of your favourite t shirts on her birthday and wear it for her at her birthday bash! But  if self-love explodes, they do a lot for themselves and don’t expect too much in return! But then it’s time to give them space, even your space. It’s the best time to go for a sojourn at the international space station!

Most women are naturally empowered with strengths they haven’t yet tested and we must be grateful for that, because I think that is what men are really scared of – their natural power, both in word and deed, the reserves of which they tap when they need to and when you don’t need them to. They manage our homes, our economies, the biggest corporates, and even nations. The beauty is not in their images, but in the fact, that when they get home from whatever they are doing outside it, you will find, as will the cardiologist, that home is where their heart is… Indeed it is a medical mystery how their heart swells with pride when they think about their families and yet remain healthy!

Not all of them are fortunate enough to be able to explore the full range  of their natural empowerment and potential, and that is where other women and men come in – some try to help in whatever way they can, some don’t. Mostly those who don’t are the men who provide lip service to this cause, because they believe, that a sweet tooth and sweet talk are the same thing – like capsicums stuffed with karela!

Women inspire us to perspire for them, and for ourselves. Be it our mothers, wives, partners, sisters or whoever. Don’t they? Do it for me they say, and you will go to Mars (and come back, not stay there) for them. They know what makes your clock tick, how, don’t ask me – tis a secret that even sages have not discovered, and they wind you up accordingly. That’s a good thing, for without them we would be stuck at midnight – neither in the yesterday nor the morrow! They encourage you to be better than yesterday – you might get irritated with that constant reminder – that you can do better – but you better do it! Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned – heard that one haven’t you ? But haven’t heard from her yet? If you do, you may need a friend, a counselor, and who better than a woman – maybe another one? For who understands you better than they do?

Women are hardworking and when they are hard at work, it’s best not to disturb them, even to ask if you can be of assistance – you have to demonstrate that they can rely on you first, else its best to admire from afar. No doubt you may have to listen to the refrain – All you do is sit around and watch… but it’s better to be safe than sorry? Also, you may mess up all the good work. But not only are they hard working, they are good fun to be with – they complement, they augment – they also comment, but that’s ok I guess in the overall schema of the Almighty!

Its not just hard work that they put in (and this has nothing to do with Ukraine); they believe in smart work. They manage their work life balance and multi task so well, just as they do when they make 3 sumptuous dishes within the hour. We men are smart (if you read it as one word, you are smart) , but as Harry Belafonte sang, Men Smart, Women smarter! And through it all, they seem dependent, but in reality are actually dependable. Give them a task and it will be done. Give them a secret, and it will remain a secret. That is their secret!

I’m sure you have heard of reinforced concrete. The one with the steel rods inside? Well, there is a human version too. Soft and gentle on the outside and strong inside! They may cry, but can also make you cry. When need be, they are a wall that can stall, play and carry the ball, and enjoy immensely at the mall. They love the colours, add colour to life, and can paint a rainbow in the rain! They are like the eggs they produce to give us the life we think we don’t owe them. In hot water, they become hard, and still a delight!.

Women make us proud of them, and vicariously of ourselves. They give us life and shape who we are as people. They bless us and are our blessings in more ways than I’ve mentioned above; to each his own blessing. Now that I’ve finished this piece on Women, I’m at peace and after such hard work on women, it’s time to relax and celebrate. Don’t you think? Or could I have done better? I’m sure I’ll hear from the women soon!


This Article is written in the lighter vein. It hopes to bring a smile to your face, and you must not ascribe motives to its contents. There is no connection to events and characters in real life and if perchance you find a connect with any such real-life event or character, rest assured its purely coincidental.


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Brian Fernandes

Brian is VO artist, Content Writer, Ad Copy Writer, a very productive author with a wide and varied output, an EQ and Leadership Trainer, a life skills Coach, a manager and a leader, with a visible track record. Brian is currently a Director of the Spearhead Media Pvt. Ltd, a Media Company that owns and runs media brands www.newskarnataka.com, www.newskannada.com, Karnataka Today, NK+ and NKTv a web based video channel, Verdevice - a Branding powerhouse and Spearhead Academy - a digital platform that offers short term learning solutions for personal growth Brian is an alumnus of Roshni Nilaya’s Post Graduate School of Social Work, HR Department and has 35 years of local and international HR and General Management experience. He is NET Certified for lectureship and has recently qualified as MEPSC Level 5 Trainer. Journalism , poetry, and Fiction and Feature writing is a passion which he is now able to pursue at will. Additionally, he loves compering and hosting talk shows. Its all in a day’s work for him. He loves learning and imparting it; so, when time permits, he provides leadership facilitation and soft skills training to Postgraduate students and Corporates in Mangalore and Bangalore. He is an accomplished Toastmaster under the aegis of the Toastamasters.org and is a designated Distinguished Toast Master. He is also the Internal Quality council member of his Alma Mater Roshni Nilaya and a member of the Board of Studies of the English Department, St. Agnes College for PG studies, Mangalore.

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